diff --git a/app/controllers/application_controller.rb b/app/controllers/application_controller.rb
index df354b726..26b76f21b 100644
--- a/app/controllers/application_controller.rb
+++ b/app/controllers/application_controller.rb
@@ -15,11 +15,11 @@ class ApplicationController < ActionController::Base
   end
   
   def set_friends
-    @friends = Person.friends.all
+    @friends = Person.friends.all if current_user
   end
 
   def count_requests
-    @request_count = Request.for_user(current_user).size
+    @request_count = Request.for_user(current_user).size if current_user
   end
   
 end
diff --git a/app/controllers/requests_controller.rb b/app/controllers/requests_controller.rb
index 0f8f5c88b..4bafd6d54 100644
--- a/app/controllers/requests_controller.rb
+++ b/app/controllers/requests_controller.rb
@@ -7,10 +7,15 @@ class RequestsController < ApplicationController
   end
   
   def destroy
-    @request = Request.where(:id => params[:id]).first
-    @request.destroy
-    flash[:notice] = "Successfully destroyed person request."
+    if params[:accept]
+      current_user.accept_friend_request params[:id]
+      flash[:notice] = "you are now friends with #{@request.person.real_name}"
+    else
+      current_user.ignore_friend_request params[:id]
+      flash[:notice] = "ignored friend request"
+    end
     redirect_to requests_url
+
   end
   
   def new
@@ -27,4 +32,6 @@ class RequestsController < ApplicationController
       render :action => 'new'
     end
   end
+
+
 end
diff --git a/app/models/person.rb b/app/models/person.rb
index 624f9f85a..688e8fb8b 100644
--- a/app/models/person.rb
+++ b/app/models/person.rb
@@ -5,7 +5,8 @@ class Person
   xml_accessor :email
   xml_accessor :url
   xml_accessor :profile, :as => Profile
-
+  xml_accessor :_id
+  
   key :email, String
   key :url, String
   key :active, Boolean, :default => false
@@ -23,7 +24,7 @@ class Person
   #validates_uniqueness_of :url
   validates_true_for :url, :logic => lambda { self.url_unique?}
 
-  scope :friends,  where(:_type => "Person")
+  scope :friends,  where(:_type => "Person", :active => true)
   validates_presence_of :email
   
   before_validation :clean_url
diff --git a/app/models/user.rb b/app/models/user.rb
index 43f48b70d..c8801b87f 100644
--- a/app/models/user.rb
+++ b/app/models/user.rb
@@ -4,7 +4,7 @@ class User < Person
          :recoverable, :rememberable, :trackable, :validatable
          
   
-  before_create :assign_key
+  #before_create :assign_key
   validates_presence_of :profile
   
   before_validation :do_bad_things
@@ -27,10 +27,12 @@ class User < Person
 
   ######### Friend Requesting
   def send_friend_request_to(friend_url)
-    p = Request.instantiate(:to => friend_url, :from => self)
-    if p.save
-      p.push_to_url friend_url
-      p
+    unless Person.where(:url => friend_url).first
+      p = Request.instantiate(:to => friend_url, :from => self)
+      if p.save
+        p.push_to_url friend_url
+        p
+      end
     end
   end 
 
@@ -48,16 +50,22 @@ class User < Person
     request.destroy
   end
 
+  def ignore_friend_request(friend_request_id)
+    request = Request.where(:id => friend_request_id).first
+    person = request.person
+
+    person.destroy unless person.active
+    request.destroy
+  end
+
   def receive_friend_request(friend_request)
     if Request.where(:callback_url => friend_request.callback_url).first
       friend_request.activate_friend
       friend_request.destroy
     else
-      #does this actually save as the same id?
       friend_request.save
     end
   end
- 
 
   def mine?(post)
     self == post.person
diff --git a/app/views/requests/_request.html.haml b/app/views/requests/_request.html.haml
index 76b6e4ac4..84284151a 100644
--- a/app/views/requests/_request.html.haml
+++ b/app/views/requests/_request.html.haml
@@ -4,4 +4,6 @@
   = "#{request.destination_url}"
 
   .destroy_link
+    = link_to 'Accept', request_path(request, :accept => true), :confirm => 'Are you sure?', :method => :delete 
+    |
     = link_to 'Ignore', request_path(request), :confirm => 'Are you sure?', :method => :delete
diff --git a/app/views/requests/index.html.haml b/app/views/requests/index.html.haml
index 6a7b8df94..f5f82f5cc 100644
--- a/app/views/requests/index.html.haml
+++ b/app/views/requests/index.html.haml
@@ -4,6 +4,6 @@
 %h3= "currently #{@request_count} requests"
 
 %ul#stream
-- for request in @remote_requests
-  = render "request", :request => request
+  - for request in @remote_requests
+    = render "request", :request => request
 
diff --git a/db/seeds/backer.rb b/db/seeds/backer.rb
index c9335e8c5..a4d5c48d4 100644
--- a/db/seeds/backer.rb
+++ b/db/seeds/backer.rb
@@ -55,12 +55,12 @@ def create(backer_number, password)
   user = User.create( :email => "#{email}@joindiaspora.com", :password => "#{email+backer_info[backer_number][0].to_s}", :profile => Profile.create( :first_name => backer_info[backer_number][1], :last_name => backer_info[backer_number][2] ))
 
   # Make connection with Diaspora Tom
-  Person.create( :email => "tom@joindiaspora.com", :url => "http://tom.joindiaspora.com/", :profile => Profile.create(:first_name => "Alexander", :last_name => "Hamiltom"))
+  Person.create( :email => "tom@joindiaspora.com", :url => "http://tom.joindiaspora.com/", :active => true, :profile => Profile.create(:first_name => "Alexander", :last_name => "Hamiltom"))
   # Make people
   
   (0..10).each { |n|
     email = backer_info[n][2].gsub(/ /,'').downcase
-    Person.create( :email => "#{email}@joindiaspora.com", :url => "http://#{email}.joindiaspora.com/", :profile => Profile.create(:first_name => backer_info[n][1], :last_name => backer_info[n][2])) unless n == backer_number
+    Person.create( :email => "#{email}@joindiaspora.com", :url => "http://#{email}.joindiaspora.com/", :active => true, :profile => Profile.create(:first_name => backer_info[n][1], :last_name => backer_info[n][2])) unless n == backer_number
   }
 end
 
diff --git a/db/seeds/dev.rb b/db/seeds/dev.rb
index 89b1a4376..d5a71b3c7 100644
--- a/db/seeds/dev.rb
+++ b/db/seeds/dev.rb
@@ -52,7 +52,7 @@ names = [ ["George", "Washington"],
 # Make people
 (0..10).each { |n|
   email = names[n][1].gsub(/ /,'').downcase
-  Person.create( :email => "#{email}@joindiaspora.com", :url => "http://#{email}.joindiaspora.com/", :profile => Profile.create(:first_name => names[n][0], :last_name => names[n][1]))
+  Person.create( :email => "#{email}@joindiaspora.com", :url => "http://#{email}.joindiaspora.com/", :active => true, :profile => Profile.create(:first_name => names[n][0], :last_name => names[n][1]))
 }
 
 
diff --git a/db/seeds/tom.rb b/db/seeds/tom.rb
index 4121cebdc..85170c013 100644
--- a/db/seeds/tom.rb
+++ b/db/seeds/tom.rb
@@ -52,7 +52,7 @@ names = [ ["George", "Washington"],
 # Make people
 (0..10).each { |n|
   email = names[n][1].gsub(/ /,'').downcase
-  Person.create( :email => "#{email}@joindiaspora.com", :url => "http://#{email}.joindiaspora.com/", :profile => Profile.create(:first_name => names[n][0], :last_name => names[n][1]))
+  Person.create( :email => "#{email}@joindiaspora.com", :url => "http://#{email}.joindiaspora.com/", :active => true, :profile => Profile.create(:first_name => names[n][0], :last_name => names[n][1]))
 }
 
 
diff --git a/spec/controllers/dashboards_controller_spec.rb b/spec/controllers/dashboards_controller_spec.rb
index 34186d8df..6b48d9a63 100644
--- a/spec/controllers/dashboards_controller_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/controllers/dashboards_controller_spec.rb
@@ -5,18 +5,14 @@ describe DashboardsController do
   
   before do
     request.env['warden'] = mock_model(Warden, :authenticate? => @user, :authenticate! => @user)
-    Factory.create(:user, :profile => Profile.create( :first_name => "bob", :last_name => "smith"))
+    @user = Factory.create(:user, :profile => Profile.create( :first_name => "bob", :last_name => "smith"))
   end
-  
-  it "index action should render index template" do
-    get :index
-    response.should render_template(:index)
-  end
-  
-  it "on index sets a person's variable" do
+
+  it "on index sets a variable containing all a user's friends when a user is signed in" do
+    sign_in :user, @user   
     Factory.create :person
     get :index
-    assigns[:people].should == Person.friends.all
+    assigns[:friends].should == Person.friends.all
   end
 
 end
diff --git a/spec/lib/parser_spec.rb b/spec/lib/parser_spec.rb
index f3eafdb2a..36150b3ea 100644
--- a/spec/lib/parser_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/lib/parser_spec.rb
@@ -112,14 +112,18 @@ describe "parser in application helper" do
     
     it "should create a new person upon getting a person request" do
       request = Request.instantiate(:to =>"http://www.google.com/", :from => @person)
-
+      
+      original_person_id = @person.id
       xml = Request.build_xml_for [request]
 
       @person.destroy
-      Person.friends.all.count.should be 0
+      Person.all.count.should be 1
       store_objects_from_xml(xml)
-      Person.friends.all.count.should be 1
+      Person.all.count.should be 2
+
+      Person.where(:url => request.callback_url).first.id.should == original_person_id
     end
+    
 
     it "should activate the Person if I initiated a request to that url" do 
       request = Request.instantiate(:to => @person.url, :from => @user).save
diff --git a/spec/models/person_spec.rb b/spec/models/person_spec.rb
index 9218313db..9e9b40abe 100644
--- a/spec/models/person_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/models/person_spec.rb
@@ -24,4 +24,14 @@ describe Person do
     xml = person.to_xml.to_s
     (xml.include? "first_name").should == true
   end
+
+  it 'should only return active friends' do
+    Factory.create(:person, :active => true)
+    Factory.create(:person)
+    Factory.create(:person)
+
+    Person.friends.all.count.should == 1
+  end
+
+
 end
diff --git a/spec/models/request_spec.rb b/spec/models/request_spec.rb
index 9669ff38c..f3357fc73 100644
--- a/spec/models/request_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/models/request_spec.rb
@@ -22,10 +22,6 @@ describe Request do
 
     xml = request.to_xml.to_s
 
-    puts xml
-    puts user.profile.first_name
-    puts user.profile.last_name
-
     xml.include?(user.email).should be true
     xml.include?(user.url).should be true
     xml.include?(user.profile.first_name).should be true
diff --git a/spec/models/user_spec.rb b/spec/models/user_spec.rb
index 120b68c1e..201ec6318 100644
--- a/spec/models/user_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/models/user_spec.rb
@@ -10,16 +10,35 @@ describe User do
   it "should be able to accept a pending friend request" do
     @user = Factory.create(:user)
     @friend = Factory.create(:person)
-    
     r = Request.instantiate(:to => @user.url, :from => @friend)
     r.save
-
     Person.all.count.should == 2
     Request.for_user(@user).all.count.should == 1
-    
     @user.accept_friend_request(r.id)
-
     Request.for_user(@user).all.count.should == 0
     Person.where(:id => @friend.id).first.active.should == true
   end
+
+  it 'should be able to ignore a pending friend request' do
+    @user = Factory.create(:user)
+    @friend = Factory.create(:person)
+    r = Request.instantiate(:to => @user.url, :from => @friend)
+    r.save
+
+    Person.count.should == 2
+    @friend.active.should == false
+
+    @user.ignore_friend_request(r.id)
+
+    Person.count.should == 1
+    Request.count.should == 0
+  end
+
+  it 'should not be able to friend request an existing friend' do
+    @user = Factory.create(:user)
+    @friend = Factory.create(:person, :active => true)
+
+    @user.send_friend_request_to( @friend.url ).should be nil
+  end
+
 end
diff --git a/spec/user_encryption_spec.rb b/spec/user_encryption_spec.rb
index d23705946..4298cb785 100644
--- a/spec/user_encryption_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/user_encryption_spec.rb
@@ -12,6 +12,7 @@ describe 'user encryption' do
     @u.url = "www.example.com"
     @u.profile = Profile.new( :first_name => "Bob", :last_name => "Smith" )
     @u.profile.save
+    @u.send(:assign_key)
     @u.save
   end