diff --git a/app/models/request.rb b/app/models/request.rb
index dbf9a62fb..3fce59fa9 100644
--- a/app/models/request.rb
+++ b/app/models/request.rb
@@ -22,6 +22,7 @@ class Request
   validate :not_already_connected_if_sent
   validate :not_already_connected_if_not_sent
   validate :no_pending_request, :if => :sent
+  validate :not_friending_yourself
   
   #before_validation :clean_link
   
@@ -95,7 +96,7 @@ class Request
   def not_already_connected_if_sent
     if self.sent
       if Contact.first(:user_id => self.from.owner_id, :person_id => self.to.id)
-        errors[:base] << 'You have already connected to this person!'
+        errors[:base] << 'You have already connected to this person'
       end
     end
   end
@@ -103,8 +104,14 @@ class Request
   def not_already_connected_if_not_sent
     unless self.sent
       if Contact.first(:user_id => self.to.owner_id, :person_id => self.from.id)
-        errors[:base] << 'You have already connected to this person!'
+        errors[:base] << 'You have already connected to this person'
       end
     end
   end
+
+  def not_friending_yourself
+    if self.to == self.from 
+      errors[:base] << 'You can not friend yourself'
+    end
+  end
 end
diff --git a/spec/controllers/requests_controller_spec.rb b/spec/controllers/requests_controller_spec.rb
index 5074d38d6..f5c9a5233 100644
--- a/spec/controllers/requests_controller_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/controllers/requests_controller_spec.rb
@@ -22,8 +22,6 @@ describe RequestsController do
 
   describe '#destroy' do
     before do
-
-
       @other_user.send_contact_request_to(@user.person, @other_user.aspects.first)
       @user.reload # so it can find its pending requests.
       @friend_request = @user.pending_requests.first
diff --git a/spec/models/request_spec.rb b/spec/models/request_spec.rb
index aa975a9f0..2762bf2ee 100644
--- a/spec/models/request_spec.rb
+++ b/spec/models/request_spec.rb
@@ -41,6 +41,11 @@ describe Request do
       connect_users(user, aspect, user2, user2.aspects.create(:name => 'new aspect'))
       @request.should_not be_valid
     end
+
+    it 'is not to yourself' do
+      @request = Request.instantiate(:from => user.person, :to => user.person, :into => aspect) 
+      @request.should_not be_valid
+    end
   end
 
   describe 'scopes' do